"BDSM is just a healthy expression of adult sexuality!!!!!!!"
When misogyny is eroticized the misogyny is rendered invisible. This is why misogynistic kinksters, male and female alike, make their pro-BDSM arguments based on choice politics and not critical thinking, because if they began to think about the social implications of what it means about women’s status when men’s degradation and subjugation of women (albeit, oppression) is eroticized and made into fetish this means they’d have to engage in serious self-reflection (if they felt convicted to do so, which most demonstrate that they do not) about how they are contributing to the reinforcement of male dominance within, not just kink culture, but other cultures and so-called subcultures within an already male dominated society. Also, the fact that BDSM dynamics replicate and reenact tactics practiced by abusers (e.g.: controlling what you think, how you feel, devaluing you and dehumanizing you, controlling your finances, controlling who you can interact with in your social life and whether or not you can see family or friends, reducing your worth to how sexually available you are to them/your abusers/your “dom”, infantilizing you - a part of the devaluing. And those examples don’t even include the obvious explicit instances of physical violence such as hitting, beating - sometimes with objects, choking and reenactments of rape, or as my blog revealed in one posts where female subs expose their abusers/male doms, actual rape) says a lot about just how “healthy” it is.